What Does "Being Enough" Even Mean?
Is it a state of gratitude? A state where you are happy with what you own and have accomplished? Or maybe a state where you feel enough without referring to your "successes"?
I can't give you a definite answer. But I can tell you what it means to me and how it helped me to realize a whole lot about myself and the inner struggles I face on a daily basis. Let's have a look at what the effects of feeling enough are.
The Effects Of Feeling Enough
One might think that a feeling of "being enough" would drive us into complacency and lose all motivation to grow and face challenges of any kind. But this couldn't be further from the truth. When we feel enough, we lose the pressure of proving ourself to others. In other words, we completely get rid of our fear of failure. If we are cool with whom we are no matter what the outcome of whatever it is we are doing, then failure is not a threat to our ego. It merely becomes an opportunity to learn. Our motivation to take on huge challenges will grow. Because, we have nothing to lose. Some of us might even be driven to always push so far that we are sure to fail. Because, we know failing is the quickest way to grow.
Playing bass I have reached that freedom. I don't care anymore, if I play something "wrong" (I didn't intend on playing). I just take it as a challenge to make it feel right in the bigger picture. And each time I do I learn. Admittedly, I am not there in most other areas in my life. I actually struggle with self-doubt quite a lot. I know it doesn't make sense. But I can't help it. I don't feel enough in a lot of ways.
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The Effects Of NOT Feeling Enough
In the areas of my life that I feel like I am not enough, I am scared to take risks. I keep procrastinating to push the possibility of failure as far into the future as I can. And when I dare to do it anyway, I often fail because of a nasty trick our mind plays on us. Our brains don't know right or wrong. Whatever you tell yourself is what your brain tries to prove. It will keep asking "Are you enough?"
Even worse, it adapts the filter of incoming information to confirm your negative (or positive) self-talk. So if you tell yourself that you can't do XYZ, your brain is going to look for chances to make that a reality. Because, and this is the biggest bummer, we want to be right. When we reaffirm our shortcomings it actually makes us feel save and secure. Our inner world is in balance when our expectations are fulfilled. We've proven that we are not enough and that it's not even worth trying next time.
You Need To Lie To Your Brain
The most effective way to end this cycle is reprogramming our subconsciousness. Remember, the brain doesn't know right from wrong. So whatever you tell it, it will look for proof. You can get really granular with affirmations like "I am going to rock the job interview tomorrow." or "I'm going to play the best concert ever, next Saturday".
In the beginning this might feel like you are lying to yourself. I think of it this way. As long as the result is positive there are no bad lies that you can tell yourself. Just think of all the negative lies you have been telling yourself up till now. Start tell yourself that you are bigger than you allow yourself to believe. Your brain will do the work and look for proof, if you do it often enough. Once you start seeing proof for it, it will get easier to keep telling yourself that you are enough and don't need praise and respect from irrelevant authorities.
The 4 Most Powerful Confidence Hacks
To make this process even more effective, I'm going to share my top 4 confidence hacks with you:
1. Say it as if it already happened: "I have a natural talent for job interviews!" or "I am an amazing musician, who always performs on top of her game!"
2. Make it a routine. Don't just do it once and expect your neurological connections to change. These beliefs are deep rooted, so it is going to take a while to teach your brain your new beliefs. If you need to calm your mind asap, it's the most effective to be as detailed as you can with your affirmations. If you want to take on the big picture, you have to make it a routine. Because, saying it once won't stand against all the times that you told yourself the opposite. And guess what... Starting with positive affirmations doesn't make the negative self-talk go away. It will make it fade away. Slowly.
3. Put up reminders with your most important affirmations. Write in on your bathroom mirror, on the fridge, your house door, your computer. Anywhere where it can't be overlooked.
4. No matter what concrete challenge you are facing right now, add "I AM ENOUGH!" to your list of affirmations. I believe that not feeling enough really is the root of all the self-limiting beliefs that we put on ourselves. "I AM ENOUGH!" is the belief that will take the longest to instal. Because, all those little negative beliefs derive from it. In return this means it is the most powerful belief you can instal.
So don't waste another day with programming negativity into your subconsciousness. Become conscious about what you are feeding your subconsciousness ?
By the way, if you are completely confident and infinitely happy share this information with your loved ones. All of us know people that can benefit from these techniques.
Just one last thing....
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Love & Bass
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